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cici-
Thanks for sharing this—this reads like an honest, heavy entry, and it makes sense you’re feeling frustrated and worried.
A few grounded thoughts, gently and realistically:
1. Sex life ≠ automatic weight gain (but there’s a connection)
It’s not that having zero sex directly makes someone fat. What usually happens is:
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less physical activity overall
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more stress, loneliness, or boredom
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emotional eating or comfort eating
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disrupted sleep or motivation
Lovemaking is physical activity (roughly 100–200 kcal per session), but more importantly, it helps regulate stress hormones (cortisol), boosts dopamine/oxytocin, and improves sleep—all of which affect weight. So the effect is indirect, not magic, but very real.
2. The shirt struggle is a real psychological hit
Not fitting into L or XL anymore, especially when those used to fit, hurts more than people admit. Clothing is a daily reminder, not vanity. And you’re right:
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V-necks feel more breathable
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they visually lengthen the neck and chest
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they’re more forgiving for bigger bodies
You’re not imagining it—many fast-fashion brands shifted away from V-necks because:
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crew necks sell better to Gen Z
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V-necks are now considered “older millennial” styling
That’s why they’re harder to find in Bench, H&M, Uniqlo, Penshoppe lately.
3. About Adidas/Nike shirts
You’re spot on here. Performance shirts:
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don’t need ironing
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dry fast (huge quality-of-life win)
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stretch and drape better on bigger bodies
They’re not “single father shirts”—they’re practical adult shirts. Nothing wrong with that at all.
4. Health concern (this part matters)
You mentioned before that you get short of breath quickly during basketball. Combined with rapid weight gain, that’s a real signal—not to panic, but to pay attention. Even small changes help:
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daily walking (20–30 mins, no heroics)
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cutting liquid calories
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prioritizing sleep over late-night eating
No extreme diets needed to start feeling better.
